Meredith has written a post about something those of us with disabilities have experienced: when people tell us they will pray for us - or when some Christians seem to think we haven't prayed enough ourselves or we would be - well - cured. She addresses spiritual versus physical healing as well as practical suggestions. As a trained hospice worker and PA, she's only just beginning to write about her experiences in those professions- with my blessing.
Have I been prayed upon? I have, although not by Catholics. I consider it inappropriate and intrusive for anyone to lay hands on me to heal me or to question my faith because I am "still disabled". Please!
Our Church has a sacrament to address healing and Catholic priests have been very respectful about administering that sacrament - by request only. And no clergy member has ever said anything implying that I would be healed if I was a better Catholic.
One of my friends has been so scarred emotionally by being prayed over that she wouldn't even go into a bible bookstore when we were on a trip together. The mere sight of the crosses and bibles brought back bad memories of being "prayed over for a cure" as a child. And I think that's the result of the dangerous intersection of religion and ableism.